B is for "Believe"

Seeing the good in my marriage and in my husband is sometimes hard. It's easy to get down on it all.

He doesn't do enough around the house. He makes a mess. He isn't romantic enough.

Really, I could go on and on. But...

There's a reason I married him. And those qualities haven't gone anywhere. Some of them might be hiding right now, but they are all still right there, safe and sound inside the man I fell in love with. So taking some time to really remember why is definitely a good way to spend a few minutes every day. For example, he's thoughtful, he's loyal, he's funny, he's an attentive lover, he's sensitive, he likes to talk, he's always there for me, he's successful at work, he's trustworthy, he's protective, he's a good father, he's a dedicated family-man, he likes many of the same shows and movies that I do, he like the outdoors, he rides a motorcycle, and he's still attractive to me.

My husband can be a bit negative, and I'm not always a diva of sunshine and roses. Things get tough and it can be easy to just say, "I can't do this anymore...it isn't worth it!" And both of us have drawn that line in the sand this past year at some point, and then smudged it over the best we could when we realized we just didn't have the heart to leave.

The thing is - we love each other. Still. And I know, deep in my heart, we were meant to be amazing together. I just have to figure out how to make it happen. I have no acceptable alternative to being optimistic about this. Believing, with my entire being, that things can change. Relationships can change. And I can change.

I can be a better wife, which will draw out all of those qualities I love in my man...making him a better husband. Somewhere along the way, we lost the path, but we can forge a new one. It isn't about finding our way home. It's about creating one, right where we are.